Christians believe that God is love. Only, there may be something about this love that the church fathers found to be so troubling that they didn’t want us to know about it. If you know what it is, Christianity may suddenly make a lot more sense, and you may be able to guess what the future religion will look like. Love is such a central theme in Christianity that this religion came to be known as the religion of love. According to the Gospel, Jesus said we should love God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength:
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”1
Paul is believed to be the author of the First Epistle to the Corinthians. It probably was written around 54 AD. There is little doubt that Paul wrote this letter himself, except for a passage claiming that women have a subordinate role in the church, which most scholars believe to be a later addition. This letter is one of the earliest written sources of Christianity. It contains a remarkable poem:
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.
When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.
Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.2
According to Paul, love is more important than faith and good works. But why? Christians believe the answer is:
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.3
Christians believe in eternal life. Jesus may have died on the cross but Christians believe he still lives because God loves the world. The author of the Gospel of John, who probably was not the Apostle John according to several scholars, may also have written the First Epistle of John, but scholars do not agree on that either. In this epistle the author shares his views on the love of God:
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.4
If you are not a Christian, you might wonder why this was necessary? The idea that God loves us, and the proof being that God sent his one and only son into the world as a sacrifice for our sins, does not make a lot of sense. Christians claim that Adam sinned and that we are all cursed for that, but then came Jesus who allowed himself to be crucified so that we can be saved. It seems that God could easily have chosen another path.
Jews and Muslims do not believe that God has a son. They also do not believe that Adam’s transgression requires such a sacrifice. When God allegedly ordered Abraham to sacrifice his son and Abraham was about to comply, God allegedly called it off. So what might justify this? There may be something about the relationship between God and Jesus that is removed from the scriptures. The odds are that it has something to do with love because that is what Christianity is all about. Ephesians gives a possible clue:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.5
Christians believe that Jesus was married to the church because of this verse. There is an issue with this view, apart from it being unusual. The church did not exist when Jesus lived. It is inconsistent in time. A historian would call it an anachronism. The verse suggests that this was a love like in a marriage. The Gospels imply that Jesus was married6 but the identity of the bride is never mentioned. And the verse claims that husbands have to love their wives just like Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, a peculiar thought.
There is a possible explanation. God could be a woman. This universe could be a virtual reality created by an advanced civilisation to entertain someone we call God. And God could use avatars in Her own story and appear like an ordinary human to us. The love the Gospels expound on is the love of God. Hence, the bride may have been God. The phrase ‘born of God’ in the Gospel of John indicates that God could be a woman. The Jewish God appearing in a human form as a woman may have been a difficult theological issue the early church fathers had to deal with.
The most likely candidate for being the avatar of God is Mary Magdalene. She may have convinced Jesus that she was the reincarnation of Eve and that he was the reincarnation of Adam and that Eve was not made out of a rib of Adam but that Adam was a son of Eve. And so Jesus may have believed he had eternal life and would not die. Perhaps this can shed some light on Jesus’ views on marriage. It appears that Jesus believed marriage to be a bond forged by God:
Have you not read that He Who made them in the first place made them man and woman? It says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will live with his wife. The two will become one.” So they are no longer two but one. Let no man divide what God has put together.7
At this point Jesus deviated from Moses’ law:
Because of your hard hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives. It was not like that from the beginning.9
That is remarkable because Jesus claimed he was not going to abolish Moses’ law. Jesus’ followers argued it would be hard for men to love their wives in this way. Jesus replied:
Not all men are able to do this, but only those to whom it has been given.10
Jesus appeared to have had a high standard on marriage. Surviving records of Jesus’ words and teachings suggest that Jesus believed women to be equal to men. The equality of the sexes appears peculiar within the context of a patriarchal society. Paul also saw women as equal partners in the Christian movement. The Didache, an early Christian text dating from the first century, implies equality of the sexes.
At some point, patriarchy has been re-established. The letters of the early church father may have been rewritten for that reason. For instance, 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 has been added later.10 It claims that the man is the head of the family. A similar claim is made in the First Epistle to Timothy.11 Scholars believe this letter was written later on and not by Paul like the letter claims.
A woman might like to see a man sacrifice himself to prove his love for her. And you may never love God enough. Christians see Jesus as a sacrificial lamb.12 It appears that God didn’t even care for Jesus. So if someone ever finds himself in the same position as Jesus may have found himself in, he might at first not be enticed by the proposition, until he accepts that he has no choice and might well be the luckiest man that ever existed. In any case, it isn’t that hard to love someone who has taken you hostage and has complete control over you. It is a natural reaction known as the Stockholm Syndrome.
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1. Mark 12:30-31 [link]
2. 1 Corinthians 13 [link]
3. John 3:16 [link]
4. 1 John 4:7-10 [link]
5. Ephesians 5:25 [link]
6. John 3:29 [link], Matthew 9:15 [link], Mark 2:19 [link], Luke 5:34 [link]
7. Matthew 19:4-6 [link]
8. Matthew 19:8 [link]
9. Matthew 19:12 [link]
10. Forgery and Counter forgery: The Use of Literary Deceit in Early Christian Polemics. Bart D. Ehrman (2013).
11. 1 Timothy 2:12 [link]
12. 1 Peter 1:18-19 [link]